Relationship Counselling

Relationship Counselling

CRISIS


We are in real crisis. Things are so bad that I can’t see a way forward. Mayday, Mayday!

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AFFAIR / BETRAYAL


I have just discovered about an affair or betrayal. I feel shocked, angry, hurt and just don’t know what to do.

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DRIFTED APART


We started off so well but over the years, life, children and work have distracted us from our own relationship. We have drifted apart and need help in getting close to each other and heading in the same direction.

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A NEW CHAPTER


We have decided that the gap between is too large and we need to go in different directions. We want to part as amicably as possible and protect family, friends and children. We also want to celebrate what was good in our past and learn what we need to do differently in future relationships.

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A CLEAN START


We are newly in love and both have had difficult past relationships. We want to learn what we need to from those and to have a clean start in our new relationship together.

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RELATIONSHIP COACHING


Our relationship is OK but we want more. We want to make it really wonderful again.

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What’s the latest?

Pay Attention for Passion’s Sake

I watch the couple on my couch and smile. Jane tilts her head and nods thoughtfully as Stephen speaks. She reaches out with a finger and touches his inner wrist, cuing him that she’d like to reply. I am watching a different version of the pair who first came to me in such distress, on the verge of divorce.
March 17, 2019/by aleks

Forgiveness

Recent studies have shown that forgiveness is an essential component of successful romantic relationships. In fact, the capacity to seek and grant forgiveness is one of the most significant factors contributing to marital satisfaction and a lifetime of love.
March 15, 2019/by aleks

40 Days Of Dating

This is an extraordinary experiment. The blogs are rich in discovery.  Worth a read, even if you never intend to go out with your best friend, simply because it gives so many clues about getting to know one another.  And that is what so many couples have lost with the attrition of life.
March 10, 2019/by aleks

Repairs

All couples argue. This is a fact supported by decades of research. As a same-sex couple, however, we are faced with unique cultural and social stressors which can result in external tensions spilling over into our marriage.
March 6, 2019/by aleks
Duo Coaching Date Night

6 Hours a Week to a Better Relationship

All of your relationship problems cannot be solved by reading a book. With that said, learning what distinguishes happy couples from unhappy ones can change the course of how you and your partner love each other.
February 1, 2019/by aleks
Duo Coaching | Do You Get All the Hugs You Need? Monday 21 January is National Hugging Day. Virginia Satir said that we need 4 hugs a day for Survival, 8 for Maintenance and 12 for Growth. 5 Reasons Why Hugging is the Best Form Of Communication Hugging is among the most amazing things we could ever give another person. Hugging is a form of therapy in itself. When we receive hugs, we also receive a sense of comfort, care, understanding, love, and many other feelings. Wouldn't you agree that hugging each other every single day would be a good idea? There's more to hugging than the surface appearance of it all. There's actual science that happens within our bodies when we are receiving a hug or giving one to somebody else. The physiological changes that we experience deep within as we're being hugged could be described as one among the ultimate forms of being human and alive. 1. Heart Health Improves/Decreased Heart Rate Hugging has the fantastic ability to lower our heart rate. A study conducted by the University of North Carolina - Chapel Hill, indicated that the volunteers who had little to no contact at all with their significant others had developed a much faster heart rate of ten beats per minute, compared to the standard five beats per minute of those that were hugged by their significant other all the time. A lower heart rate correlates with less chance of cardiac illnesses. 2. Balances the Nervous System Just by hugging someone, you have already started balancing their nervous system Tiny egg-shaped pressure sensors also called Pacnician corpuscles discovered within the skin are linked to the brain through our Vagus nerve. Essentially what that means is that they sense the feeling of being touched. 3. Reduces Stress Levels Hugging somebody can ease most of their stress immediately and effectively. Too frequently we underestimate the power of hugging. What happens is that when we're hugged, the level of cortisol which is circulating throughout our body is lowered tremendously. This means that our minds can calm down and think without stress. The next time you are with your partner, give them the biggest hug you can summon! 4. Better Overall Mood When you hug somebody, you start to increase the production of serotonin in your brain that's the essential chemical that you need for a positive attitude. That also increases your self-esteem. Something to keep in mind when thinking about those who are lonely is that they're experiencing deficient levels of serotonin. When you hug somebody, the brain starts to release more serotonin and endorphin into your blood vessels, creating pleasure and expelling sorrow. 5. Relaxes Your Body Hugging can cause your muscles to relax in the best ways you can imagine. When receiving a hug, our muscles start to release tension all over the body. Seriously, why not hug each other more often? What can you do to get The Hugs you need and give your partner the Hugs they need?

Do You Get All the Hugs You Need?

5 Reasons Why Hugging is the Best Form Of Communication

Hugging is among the most amazing things we could ever give another person. Hugging is a form of therapy in itself.
January 12, 2019/by aleks
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Articles & Testimonials

  • Pay Attention for Passion’s Sake

    I watch the couple on my couch and smile. Jane tilts her head and nods thoughtfully as Stephen speaks. She reaches out with a finger and touches his inner wrist, cuing him that she’d like to reply. I am watching a different version of the pair who first came to me in such distress, on the verge of divorce.

    Read more
  • Forgiveness

    Recent studies have shown that forgiveness is an essential component of successful romantic relationships. In fact, the capacity to seek and grant forgiveness is one of the most significant factors contributing to marital satisfaction and a lifetime of love.

    Read more
  • 40 Days Of Dating

    This is an extraordinary experiment. The blogs are rich in discovery.  Worth a read, even if you never intend to go out with your best friend, simply because it gives so many clues about getting to know one another.  And that is what so many couples have lost with the attrition of life.

    Read more
  • Repairs

    All couples argue. This is a fact supported by decades of research. As a same-sex couple, however, we are faced with unique cultural and social stressors which can result in external tensions spilling over into our marriage.

    Read more
  • 6 Hours a Week to a Better Relationship

    All of your relationship problems cannot be solved by reading a book. With that said, learning what distinguishes happy couples from unhappy ones can change the course of how you and your partner love each other.

    Read more
  • Do You Get All the Hugs You Need?

    5 Reasons Why Hugging is the Best Form Of Communication

    Hugging is among the most amazing things we could ever give another person. Hugging is a form of therapy in itself.

    Read more
  • Put Down Your Phone: Why Presence Is the Best Gift You’ll Ever Give

    Many of our clients, who have drifted apart over many years, have communication problems. They often spend too little time being with each other talking about the things that are important and life enhancing to them.

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  • Rituals of Connection

    In his book The Intentional Family, Bill Doherty discusses “rituals of connection” as an important tool for successful relationships. A ritual of connection is a way of regularly turning towards your partner that can be counted on.

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  • Sex can be an uncomfortable topic for couples

    Many of us feel embarrassed about our bodies or have been sexually rejected at some point.

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  • Couples’ therapy: the Obamas do it and so do we

    Think counselling is just for rocky marriages? Wrong. Ben and Marina Fogle say it helps them to communicate better.

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  • Robots Give Better Hugs

    They are an important part of connection with our loved ones. It is said that we need 4 Hugs a day for survival, 8 for maintenance and 12 for Growth.

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  • I Don’t Fancy My Husband

    The longer you have been in a relationship, the less sex you have, and it has nothing to do with age. The steepest decline occurs in the first 12 months of a relationship

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  • Is Self Love The Way To True Love ?

    With Valentine's Day rapidly approaching I am bombarded with reminders of love; Moonpig cards, bouquets of roses, romantic dinners for two and then there's the chocolate.

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  • 10 Questions to Keep Your Relationship Alive

    Do you remember what it was like when your relationship started ? The stream of non-stop texting, the late-night conversations that will make you starry-eyed

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  • Your Phone Could Stop Arguments?

    Researchers at the University of Southern California are developing an app that will suggest a time-out if it detects couples starting an argument.

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  • Raising Teenagers!

    Slammed doors, bad moods and hours lost staring at their smartphone? Expert Ian Williamson explains how to deal with your child

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“It is massively beneficial to have both a male and a female counselling us at the same time”

“When shopping around for counselling, 95% demanded weekly sessions at specific times, and were totally inflexible. You can give us the flexibility we need, and besides which, I like the idea that Duo Coaching is a man and a woman.”

“The knowledge that we can email and phone you between sessions to get your support is incredibly helpful and makes us feel really supported.”

“I have never felt quite so safe and able to open up with anyone as I did with you both. You had an amazing understanding which gave me comfort and strength. You’ve been so kind – thank you.”

“The journey is still tough but it is so much easier when there is a safe place to talk, to share and not shout or be shouted at.”

“When we found ourselves at a crossroads in our marriage, you taught us how to be honest and open with each other and, with the utmost sensitivity, encouraged us to find the right path.”

“We liked the unique service of two of you working with two of us. From Day 1 the journey has turned into a positive one rather than negative. You are both very skilled but in different ways.”

“Duo Coaching has saved our life together. From the first distraught phone conversation, and in Duo Coaching sessions over the last few months, you have helped us rebuild our shattered marriage and learn a great deal about ourselves, both as individuals, and as a couple.”

“We have learned a HUGE amount during our time with you – the ability to talk and actually connect with one another is something that was vitally missing from our relationship and not something that any previous counselling has ever managed to help us with. “

“We are both hugely grateful for the support and advice and help you have given us to get us through what has been a miserably tough time. We now feel ready to move forward with the tools you have given us.”

“The skilful and thoughtful sessions we had with you have enabled us to clearly move forward. I have a genuine feeling that I have my old and truly wonderful wife back – the one I close to destroyed and I feel grateful, relieved and unduly fortunate.”

“I can’t imagine what would have happened had we not had the intervention you brought. Thank you. Both”

“We have never been happier. We are stronger than we ever have been. We are totally in love.  Thank you.”

“There is now real empathy between us. I can now be much more open about my emotions and know that I will be supported. I can enjoy, laugh and take the rough with the smooth.”

“This is the first time in years that we have bared all. Without this, we wouldn’t be in a relationship at all. The balance of the future is now much greater than to the past.”

“Before we would have screamed and shouted at each other; now we are talking like grown ups. We are now in a really positive place and I know we’ll never go back to how things were in the past.”

“I am much more happy and having really positive experiences at home; I am really wanting to come home and see my wife rather than dreading it.”

“Thank you so very much for your incredible insight, sensitivity and intelligent guidance.”

“Having met you, we knew that we were in safe hands and had made the right decision.”

“We feel we’ve entered a new and all together more positive phase of our lives and I thank you again for helping us get here.”

“My life and our lives are so much better for working with you. It has made such a significant difference to us.”

“We chose you because I knew there would be an end in six sessions.  Now we’ve reached the end I realise they’ve gone amazingly quickly.”

“We’re now talking in the way that we were never able to do in our lives. After just three sessions with you: We have just had the best holiday that we’ve ever had. We have come a huge way. This is the beginning of our new life.
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“After just one session we now know with real clarity what the fundamental issues are and are on the way to resolving them.”

“We appreciate the secure, calming, revealing, educational and problem solving sessions.”

“Your qualities include listening, firm but kind, versatile, able to adapt, genuinely caring, being outcome based to create real, practical results.”

“The first long offload session was essential, as we got everything out and ended up empty. From there we could move on. If we’d gone to traditional counselling we’d have still been offloading two months later.”

“If we had gone to conventional counselling we would have taken a longtime getting nowhere. It would have been tedious and my husband would have felt marginalised. This has worked wonderfully well for us.”

“We’ve had traditional Relationship Counselling before and now know that you get what you pay for.”

“You both have an amazing ability to help uncover the real reasons for our behaviours and actions without us feeling ‘bad’ about it. ”

“ I’ve never ever felt as good as I have done in the last week. I felt really good when I first came here and I knew we were in safe hands.”

“The first time we came here we learned so much. We would never ever have worked this out ourselves.”