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Two Rules for a Great Relationship

Science says lasting relationships come down to-you guessed it-kindness and generosity. Every day in June, the most popular wedding month of the year, about 13,000 American couples will say "I do," committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward…

Vulnerability, Shame and Brené Brown

You may not have heard of Brené Brown, an Americian researcher who has done a couple of excellent TED Talks.  So here's why I'm mentioning her here. She has found an intentional connection between love and belonging, and now recognises as fact that 'A deep sense of love and belonging is…

When men lie

This article is by Terry Real, a long term relationship counsellor in the USA: I’m sitting in a plane returning from Canada where I spent a day with a couple on the brink of divorce. The husband siphoned off hundreds of thousands of dollars from his wife’s successful business in…

Long-term partners need to rethink the rules on sex in marriage

Long-term partners need to rethink the rules on sex in marriage I read this fascinating article in The Times on Saturday 25th. You’ve been together for years, so you know everything about your partner’s body and how it responds to yours. There’s no need for words when you instinctively understand…

BBC Radio Solent Interview - Affairs

On 8th April 2015, Cathy & Neil were interviewed by Katie Martin on her topical afternoon show on about affairs. She had read an article on how a husband’s six-year affair saved a marriage, and wanted to explore the whole topic. What came out is that affairs happen usually because of…